Oh, those kids! Why are they so naughty? Why ignore the parents and teachers? Why teens run away from home? This theme – the thorn in almost every parent. So much so that they ceased to talk about it out loud. Sick theme 'Fathers and Sons' talk is not accepted. All resigned to the fact that it is impossible to change something. And yet … In everyone's life is the period of adolescence, the transition from the state of 'child' to a state of 'adult'. This is the period when the child checks the 'strength' of the values and principles of life, which he handed parents.

Very often, these principles are contrary to the existing reality. All of our kindness, decency, honesty and caring scatter like dust before the hurricane reality. On the street, at school and on television a child sees exactly the opposite values: greed, cruelty and deception. The psyche of the child can not withstand such a contrast. How to give your child the right values for life? How do I make this he was guided by our values, not those that impose street? Since 13 years, the child begins the process of socialization – he learns to live in a society under the laws of society. That is, he begins to perceive the impact of the external environment. If in early childhood, up to 3 years old child as a role model for perceived mother and father, with 3 years to 13 – entourage, after 13 years, priority actions – in the external environment. It turns out that giving a child to school until the age of seventeen, we condemn him for raising the school and the street.

Edit this situation can only place a child in an environment that sets an example for a kind, caring and loving relationship with each other. Where can I find such a society? How do you know what laws need to build it? Humanity has opened a lot of laws in the field of astronomy, physics, biology, genetics, etc. Only the science of human society and education are 'sucked from the finger', we studied a bitter trial and errors. In order that our children do not grow up in conflict with the surrounding reality, we must educate them in accordance with the laws and principles of a harmonious society. And nature itself tells us that this is – the laws harmony and love. Only a world where everyone cares not only about themselves, and – increasingly – the interests of others, will allow each of us feel the full harmony and perfection. Oleg Petrochenko Conflict or harmony – that we give to our children?

With the birth of the child, and even when planning the child's birth, every parent thinks about how to raise it? Cost is to beat the child, punish, and perhaps give him complete freedom in the knowledge of this vast world? A someone allows himself not to strain his boundless intellect, education and gives his child into the hands of intuition. And what is this "intuition" and how it relates? Does it help or just crazy ideas? By itself, a phenomenon intuition has not been investigated fully. Perhaps this is also not possible to prove the existence of a UFO, but then … that it is present in the heart of every mother is a fact. How can a young girl, inexperienced mother to know when and what you need it tsenneyshemu daze? Are right those who say that by choosing each time the same combination of action (eg to feed, change diaper, put to sleep), a woman accustomed to the cry of a child (because every time he kind of). Yes. Will right.

But what about the time to explain what is not prepared by women who do not read the Talmud on the correct conception, nurturing and upbringing, and only amenable to his "sixth sense", make fewer mistakes in child care than carefully prepared mommy? What if we look deep into this mystery. What is the "intuition"? Intuition – pozdnelat. Lat. intuitio – contemplation, from Lat. intueor – stare.

Consideration of the phenomenon studied by many scientists, psychologists and philosophers. One suggestion is that intuition is the experience that comes in a particular situation from the unconscious, without any logical costs. Maybe. But in raising the child, the most important role played by your own upbringing. Or rather how raised you. It is believed that a woman is looking for a wife in the likeness of his father, a guy in the image of the mother.

So, who beats? And yet it is safe to determine the motivations of senior lay hands on the younger, as well as the personality type of the seniors. Bute alcoholics with no brakes, hit emotionally unbalanced, beat people, having a lot of personal problems. Those who do not have the patience (no time to explain – it's easier), who ignorant in matters of child psychology (though well-versed by the "hot hand" can). Finally, those who do not know of other methods. In general sense of the beat of his own helplessness, and his actions in this impotence and painted. Physical punishment in the apparent effectiveness of its rapidly removes a person punished by guilt and prevents it from awareness.

Simultaneously, it sends information to the child: "When you are angry with someone – beat?. When you ask: "Why beat that?" Answer: "And to know." And many are simply out of conviction: "They beat me, and I grew up normal and the right person. " And what they think about the phenomenon of physical punishment of parties to the conflict "Parent", "child", the church, psychologists? PUNISH GOOD TO BE HAND-known American psychologist, who is also a preacher, James Dobson believes that nature has created specially in the lower part of the child seat in which to act in cases of outright defiance. Many children need it in the physical punishment of disobedience. Shall be punished by hand should be good, so D. Dobson recommends using rods or a switch, the hand may remain the same means of expressing love.

Corporal punishment must be rare, but accurate. Can be punished with 18 months already. But teenagers do not hit better. Physically punish the parent has the right to balanced and emotionally restrained. James Dobson says that all the social unrest in the world today stem from the fact that parents have moved away from the postulates about the penalties set out in the Old and New Testaments.